Author: becbraid

More than Survival

Anna’s Story Allow me to tell the story of a fellow cancer survivor – where I have the honour of sharing a triumphant process of a woman regaining control and injecting choice back into her life. A stark comparison to the cancer process where choice is usually in limited supply.   Choice and control is more powerful than you think… Often, like a lot of things in life, until you loose something, you don’t necessarily value its importance. This is a story of an incredible woman exercising choice and control to nourish her soul and bring a feeling of peace back to her heart, after feeling torment for so long. Anna suffered from breast cancer at 35, then again at 42 (parotid gland cancer) and then again (yes, again) when she was 47, breast cancer (triple negative). She’s had 20 surgeries, 8 chemotherapy sessions, 60 radiotherapy treatments and various complications along the way that could probably fill a book (maybe she’ll let me write that one day)? I titled this story ‘More than Survival’ and …

Are you spending too much time on your phone?

Do you get mesmerised by the little red dots that tell us how many notifications are on each of our social media platforms, or our emails? Are you drawn to them without even realising? Do you check your phone way more than necessary – simply because you have habitually become drawn to clearing notifications? I became unwell recently with a virus that snowballed to the point I ended up in hospital… really crook. I ended up with vestibular neuritis, a condition where I was suffering chronic nauseousness (plus incessant vomiting) and an imbalance caused by dizziness. I struggled to walk straight and I can only describe it as either morning sickness on steroids or the point you reach when you know you’ve had too many drinks (and you can’t go back) – yuck! Due to the dizziness, scrolling my phone made things worse, it made me want to throw up (more than I already was) and so I took some time off my phone. It also stressed me out if I saw work emails, because …

What’s Your Grocery Game?

Daily, Weekly, Fortnightly? Do you enjoy Grocery shopping? [Me: “Hell No”]. In my ‘Single Mumma’ days, I was paid fortnightly, so I shopped fortnightly. When Hubby and I moved in together, we lived in central which meant we just went daily, we’d take in turns and get whatever we needed on demand. Mind you, neither of us would ever walk away from our daily shops spending any less than one ‘Pineapple’ ($50). I’ve also tried weekly shopping, online shopping, online/pick up. I’ve had routines that have worked and others where we spent way too much [i.e. choosing extra things we didn’t need and weren’t on the list] or, having a huge amount of wastage and filling a big garbage bag full of veggies we didn’t end up using [wastage is a pet hate of mine]. The verdict… I’m going to share with you, ‘My Grocery Game’ – Tips and tricks where I have had the greatest success. I’m not just talking about saving money and minimising wastage, I’m talking about the ‘practicality’. What suits our …

Gratitude

How awesome is gratitude… Often, in today’s society we are quick to judge, we are quick to critisise and often, we don’t stop to appreciate the good things people do. I just recently sent one of my counselling educators an email containing some positive gratitude. They spend soooooo long providing feedback about assignments or answering questions etc. And when I get a really engaging teacher, a teacher I can truly learn from and be guided by, it makes my study experience so much more enriching (particularly with online study). They also stand out like a light bulb as a ‘favourite’ teacher. I felt grateful and so I thanked her. Yes, she’s employed to do so, yes, she gets paid to do so… but this attitude just stirs the pot on too much ‘entitlement’ (in my opinion). She was genuinely so appreciative saying she vary rarely receives feedback… so a few minutes of my time brightened her day and probably created a smile within that made all her hard work worthwhile. It may have re-fulfilled her …

What’s Your Flight Style?

Are you a talker, sleeper or ‘do-er’? I recently boarded a flight back to Sydney after a work trip. We’d had a beautiful morning at the beach before reluctantly packing to head back home… Home is inland and very much ‘beachless’. A little sad to leave the turquoise ocean behind, yet, feeling grateful for our mini break. Anyway, the point of this article is to seek ‘What’s Your Flight Style’? This may seem like a weird question, yet this thought process came to me when I boarded this particular flight back to Sydney. We slotted into our row of three and immediately did our [family] ritual… bags up or under the seat. iPad hidden so that Mr ‘four’ can be bribed to sleep before the iPad comes out, drink bottle ready, snacks within easy reach, and don’t forget the three favourite super hero figurines that must be held in gorgeous chubby toddler hands. Hubby’s usually catching flies before take off (i.e. yes, he is snoring and sound asleep – an impossibility for me). The above …

Do You Struggle to Stay on Track?

  Do you need a little girl power?  A little inspiration to get you moving?  Keep you moving?  Or, do you need someone who is cooking a deliciously nutritious meal to post a picture so at that very moment, you decide that you might hit the kitchen and reach for the fresh ingredients instead of ordering pizza? I realised that I was relying on myself to get me going!  Promising myself things that I was not delivering on… Starting the week brilliantly and then failing miserably – with NO accountability.  Sure I get disappointed in myself, but then I might pat myself on the back, say “It’s ok, there’s always next week” [as I eat my second mint slice and a cup of coffee before bed]… coffee before bed… #notsmart What if instead of hitting the choccy biscuits, I reach out and chat to my ‘Accountability Club’ so that I can find some inspiration and strength to have another go instead of wallowing in self defeat.  You never know, there might be someone else sitting with …

Packing Away the Silly Season

[Originally published in ENLIGHTEN – ISSUE NO. 2] You know when you realise enough is enough… when you’ve felt it for a long time, yet you seem to grant yourself permission to continue to defy what is important. You talk yourself around to avoid guilt, and you inevitably continue to sabotage yourself… Why? Because, “Heck, you deserve to have fun.” Right? [… well at least that’s what I’ve been telling myself… just one more drink, just one more piece of cheese]. When the ‘fun’, the ‘silly season’ and the ‘summer lovin’ indulgence flows well and truly into the New Year, you begin to feel sluggish. Let me tell you what I’m talkin’ about (my mum and I had some fun and made a poem)… ‘ tis the season To be jolly French champagne   And Christmas holly Chocolate and cocktails Celebrating with friends… No time for thoughts   As the BELLY DISTENDS Festivities continue… With delicious food, This keeps us all In a festive mood!   Perhaps it’s because I’ve not yet packed down my …