All posts tagged: Kindness

Gratitude

How awesome is gratitude… Often, in today’s society we are quick to judge, we are quick to critisise and often, we don’t stop to appreciate the good things people do. I just recently sent one of my counselling educators an email containing some positive gratitude. They spend soooooo long providing feedback about assignments or answering questions etc. And when I get a really engaging teacher, a teacher I can truly learn from and be guided by, it makes my study experience so much more enriching (particularly with online study). They also stand out like a light bulb as a ‘favourite’ teacher. I felt grateful and so I thanked her. Yes, she’s employed to do so, yes, she gets paid to do so… but this attitude just stirs the pot on too much ‘entitlement’ (in my opinion). She was genuinely so appreciative saying she vary rarely receives feedback… so a few minutes of my time brightened her day and probably created a smile within that made all her hard work worthwhile. It may have re-fulfilled her …

Go Easy on Yourself.

I’m back after two days of ‘missing in action’… though I was not short of action with plenty to be done, places to attend, business to sort and a never ending list of things to organise. With that being said, you can understand why my words needed to be put on hold whilst I was living life… And so, I granted myself a reprieve to get through a couple of busy days. Let’s do a little re-cap and make up for day twenty-six, twenty-seven and the fabulous, ‘sunshiny’ day twenty-eight… If you do nothing else but scroll to the bottom and read the section in Pink… then you will gain the key message from this particular blog. Sending smiles and sunshine for your weekend ahead.  Also – my garden is blooming, I just LOVE this time of year. In my shoes for a few spring days… I then went on to write precisely 492 words below, which I have omitted, because I didn’t think anyone would really need to know, nor would be interested in my movements over the past three days…. …

What about invisible illnesses?

What happens when you are unwell, but nobody knows? Nobody knows the pain behind closed doors, the perseverance shown despite things not being ok? What if you were unwell and nobody ever really understood, in fact, a very small percentage of people you cross in your lifetime will ever truly ‘GET IT’? What if you knew that you would battle this illness for the rest of your life? There is treatment, however, there is no cure? What if one treatment caused another problem which lead to another treatment or procedure, and another problem… and it all just kept going round and round with no real long term solution? What if you’re ‘good’ for a few months and then you’re not, but people say, ‘Why, what’s happening now”? Like there is a new issue, even though, this is a pattern that becomes your life. Let me introduce you to my beautiful daughter Ellie and every other Crohns Disease or IBD fighter on the planet. My daughter has been through hell and back. She is polite, well …

The Perfect Gift

You get the news… a friend or family member has just been diagnosed. You are in shock, you cry and you want to see them. Then… you wonder what you can do for them. Flowers? Chocolates? What do you even buy someone who’s just received this awful news? Their life has just turned crazy, they’re having more tests and scans, they’re having surgery, they’re organising their life so they can function with their kids through the coming months of chemo and radiotherapy… what can I do? What can I buy? What do I say? I have worked together with the amazing gals in my young breast cancer support group, to ensure that you know what to do if something like this affects a loved one. 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with Breast Cancer in their lifetime… chances are that you will know someone, even if you don’t just yet. 8 women die each day from Breast Cancer. [Source: nbcf.org.au] Let’s get started… I’ve broken them down into different categories. IN THE BEGINNING – …

Judgement…

Do you judge others? Let me answer that for you… YES – yes you do! Don’t worry, I’m not judging you for judging, I am empathetic of the fact you are a human. It’s what we do best. Have you ever judged – then told yourself to stop being so judgemental? Have you judged subconsciously not realising until the thoughts entered your mind? Perhaps you’re not judging with nastiness, it might be out of genuine intrigue or a simple inability to hush your mind. Perhaps it’s self-harming judgement, so you are not directing the judgement upon others, you are reflecting it back at yourself? “Gosh I wish I looked like that”! “I wish my stomach was flat like that”! “I wish I had a job like that”! “I wish I had the confidence to be like her/him”! Judgement of the above is still harmful, you are admiring someone else but in the same instance are comparing and deeming yourself ‘not good enough’. Then there’s harsh judgement or judgement that is unkind: Where you find yourself …

Snail Mail

Is snail mail a dying virtue? A fading art form… An expiring tradition? Are pen pals a thing of the past and where did our collection of sweet, matching stationery sets go? Not to mention… when was the last time you hand wrote a note to someone? Snail Mail they call it… It now takes two to six days to receive mail in the same town (unless you pay priority for delivery in one to four days). How much is a stamp these days? That’s right, a majority probably doesn’t know. I only discovered this recently, the last I was aware, it was 50c, that’s how long it’s been since I regularly acquired postage stamps – they’re now $1. Wow, I thought, that’s kind of expensive for one standard size letter. Or, is it??? Texting, emailing, ‘Snap Chatting’ and conversing through Facebook and Instagram is now the modern day way to communicate: Convenient? Yes. Fun? Yes. Addictive? Yes. [Don’t worry I’m not suggesting a strike of social media.] I had a brief case full of …