All posts tagged: Opinion

Simplify.

Can we have it all? All at the same time… All working harmoniously and simultaneously… All with equal prioritisation… All with equal attention and focus… What am I talking about? The ‘all’ refers to all the different pieces, or facets of life, (the ‘slices of cake’). Can we eat the whole cake? Should we eat the whole cake? No… I don’t believe that would be healthy for us, both literally and metaphorically. Why? If we try and cram too many pieces or facets into our everyday world, we will overindulge, we will eventually feel sick and eventually it will all come unstuck. Who struggles with balance? Work, kids, hobbies, ‘me’ time, relationship time, family time, study time, exercise, healthy eating, cooking, kids sport, extra curricular, chasing dreams, working on a project, working on yourself??? How do we get the balance right? For me it’s piece-by-piece… It’s imperfection and it’s a constant balance between learning and listening to myself, my intuition. If you feel torn between two facets of life and it leaves you feeling like …

YOU are not your Cancer!

I get pretty fiery about this… hence creating a blog dedicated to this topic. You are not your cancer… Not a number… Not a statistic… YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING. There are good doctors, bad doctors and great doctors… You are entitled to a great doctor who listens to you, respects your concerns, gives time for your questions and treats you with respect. Just because a doctor is assigned to you in the general referral process, DOES NOT mean you have to use them and DOES NOT mean you can’t seek a second opinion. I’ve been pretty fortunate with my care, I’ve only changed one of my doctors because it just didn’t sit right with me. More importantly though, building a relationship with your doctor takes time and you need to be true to yourself in what is acceptable and not acceptable. One of my initial specialist consults had me fearing for my life… yes, I know, I had cancer and it was threatening my life. However, when I go to hear about treatment and …

Dear Mind + Body

You can see the foreword to this journal entry   >>>HERE<<< 23 October 2015 Dear Diary, And I said this to my body… “I want to be your friend” It took a long breath and replied… “I have been waiting my whole life for this” I read the above this morning on Instagram. So simple… so beautiful. It is time for my mind and body to make amends and to become friends again. I want my mind and body to be succinct; I want them to interact positively, to have fun and to feel free in a loving and accepting relationship with one another. I want the mind to have more confidence and acceptance of the body, I want the mind to have respect and admiration for the body and I want my body to have patience with my mind as it learns to love and accept itself as a whole once more. I want this relationship to be unconditional. My body endured cancerous cells multiplying and invading my lymph system, it helped show me …

Why did I get cancer?

12 September 2014 – My Journal (written in the midst of chemotherapy) Lots of deep thoughts for this journal entry and something that I have been thinking about a lot since my diagnosis and it goes something like this… Why did I get cancer? I know that there is no definitive scientific answer to this question and I’m not particularly spiritual either. Religious to an extent, however, I don’t actively practice (I don’t go to church every week). After diagnosis, I became very distanced from the ‘Catholic’ beliefs and angry as to why this has happened to me. I guess it’s natural to want to blame someone. These angry feelings have subsided and I’ve come to accept that this (the cancer) is real, it is happening and I don’t need anger at God getting in the way of my recovery. But the question still begs at me… why did I get cancer? IT IS without a doubt the most obvious question anyone in my position would be asking. You then continue on the obvious arguments …

5 Hard Truths – Part 3

5 Hard Truths – Part 3 Continued… You can read Part 1 – Here You can read Part 2 – Here   Dear Diary… 19 August 2014 “When I’m happy, I seem to be REALLY happy, because to me these little moments of bliss are wondrous. I smile bigger and nearly feel like I could bounce around. It’s ecstasy. Because when I feel good, it’s an absolute blessing. I have now felt rock bottom, so I see a whole new happiness and embracement of life that I didn’t see before.” LESSON FOUR The Little things are the big things. We’ve all heard, “It’s the little things”, don’t just say it because you’ve heard it and you know what it means. You need to truly FEEL it, you need to recognise these little moments of bliss that come to us daily. These moments truly are what magic’s made of. Reflection: I think I started to realise how important little things were more than I’d ever noticed before. What I was experiencing with my illness were ‘GINORMOUS’ …

5 Hard Truths – Part 2

5 Hard Truths That Will Make Your Life Easier Continued… You can read Part 1 Here… So lets keep going 🙂 Dear Diary… 6 August 2014 (After my first chemo) “I had been building on the mindset with regard to the drugs (chemo)… Poison or cure? The more I thought of poison the more negativity and anger pent up inside me, making me anxious and not ready! Not ready for what??? I want and need to be here, I love and appreciate my life, I need to fight and to do that I NEED chemotherapy!” NUMBER TWO Accept what is. Accept what you cannot change. Rise to adversity and maneuver your way through the ‘detour’ until you find a new road. Save your energy in fighting against what you cannot change. Accept and adapt to whatever adversity has thrown you off course. I believe before my diagnosis I spent way too much time fighting against things that could not be changed. I can also tell you first hand, that this causes unnecessary stress and illness. …

5 Hard Truths – Part 1

Today I embrace some key passages from my cancer diary, these extracts were written at the beginning of my journey… gosh I hate that word ‘journey’ let’s rephrase it as an ‘adventure’… An ‘adventure’ into uncertainty, and having no clue as to what would develop each day. It was a mystery, it was foreign, it was frightening and I didn’t know where I was going – the only thing I knew for certain was that I HAD to go on this adventure, I had to take the risks… I valued my life and I needed to fight the bastard (cancer). [Note: there will be a few ‘swear’ words (profanities) from time to time. I don’t swear a lot, however, when it comes to cancer, I give myself permission and so should you. Nothing like the old “F” BOMB to add emphasis to your thoughts and conviction to your declarations.] 5 Hard Truths that will make your life easier: Dear Diary… 4 August 2014 (2 days before my first chemotherapy) “I can’t wake in the morning …