All posts tagged: Young Breast Cancer

Hair Loss: To Wig or not to Wig

Hair loss is such a big topic when it comes to breast cancer or any cancer that has this devastating side effect.  There are so many facets I could cover relating to emotions alone, however, this post will focus on the wigs that I chose and what I found to be the best regarding real vs synthetic hair (I knew nothing until I had both and could draw a real comparison from my experience) – I wish this blog was available to me when I had to choose, so I hope this helps you or someone you may know facing hair loss and baldness. I’m splitting this blog into three parts… PART A This section is short and sweet (or not so sweet actually) – these images are when my hair started to fall out profusely… In the shower, on my pillow, in the bathroom – EVERYWHERE!  Pulling clumps out of my hair still gives me a lump in my throat and choosing to shave it when the shedding started, was the most empowering thing …

Weekly Wrap and Ramble

Hi there I hope you’ve all had a beautiful soulful Sunday.  On Friday night I recorded this video diary so that my blogging wouldn’t impose on Family time. It was meant to be a weekly wrap alone, but it ended up being a bit of a random open discussion about a few things, finally finishing with a weekly wrap and some thoughts or highlights about the blogs that were posted this past week.   I hope your week ahead is filled with loads of great things. Love Bec x For more Blogtober posts, you can find them in the BLOGTOBER INDEX – HERE.   © Copyright 2018 becbraid    

Index – Blogtober 2.0

Welcome to the hub of Blogtober… A central place to find what you are looking for or simply keep up to date [in case you don’t have time each day and would prefer to binge read].  At the completion of October 2018 it will be a full index of information.  Practical, emotional, spiritual, scary, triumphant – all of it!!! DAY 1 – WELCOME TO BLOGTOBER DAY 2 – HARD TRUTHS – PART 1 (LESSONS LEARNT FIGHTING A LIFE THREATENING DISEASE) DAY 3 – HARD TRUTHS – PART 2 (I’M SUPER PASSIONATE ABOUT THESE HARD TRUTHS) DAY 4 – HARD TRUTHS – PART 3 (I HONESTLY BELIEVE THESE TRUTHS CAN SET YOU FREE) DAY 5 – FAREWELL BREASTS (A DIARY ENTRY – WHAT I WILL MISS WHEN MY BREASTS ARE GONE) DAY 6 – RELEASE – A DIARY ENTRY (VULNERABILITY) DAY 7 – SLOW DOWN SUNDAY (A DAY FOR WANTS NOT NEEDS) DAY 8 – A NEW MOON (PRACTICALITY MEETS SPIRITUALITY – INTENTION SETTING) DAY 9 – THE PERFECT GIFT (WHEN A LOVED ONE IS DIAGNOSED WITH CANCER) DAY …

The Perfect Gift

I wrote this blog two years ago and it has been my most shared blog when other people come to me and say, “What can I buy my friend/mother/sister etc – what did you want/need” when they are sadly diagnosed with breast cancer (or any cancer) – I always send the link to this blog.  So I have re-published, with a few additions.  It’s also been published HERE. _________________________ You get the news… a friend or family member has just been diagnosed. You are in shock, you cry and you want to see them. Then… you wonder what you can do for them. Flowers? Chocolates? What do you even buy someone who’s just received this awful news? Their life has just turned crazy, they’re having more tests and scans, they’re having surgery, they’re organising their life so they can function with their kids through the coming months of chemo and radiotherapy… what can I do? What can I buy? What do I say? I have worked together with the amazing gals in my young breast cancer …

A Hiccup in my Reconstructive Process…

Three video diaries recorded on 19th September 2018 I’m sadly having a little hiccup in my reconstructive process at present <insert sad face>. My videos will explain what is going on. Video 1 – On the way to my surgeon, I explain the hiccup/glitch/set-back I am experiencing and what I anticipate for that appointment. Video 2 – Straight after my appointment – WARNING – I actually shed a few tears during this video, I thought I was ok, then I started talking and I realised I wasn’t.  It was an emotional release that highlighted that what I am am experiencing is extremely disheartening for me. Video 3 – I check back in after the tears with a little more perspective and acceptance – Feeling a little more balanced and refreshed.       So there you go – there’s the latest with where I am up to on this crazy adventure that life through Breast Cancer has asked me to go on… Please pray/keep your fingers crossed that I can heal up naturally and get …

Tissue-Expander Fill – Breast Reconstruction

A video diary from 30th and 31st August 2018 Here you will find two video diaries where I take you through the experience of my ‘fills’ – my emotions, my thoughts and also an explanation of the overall process. This is the first phase of breast reconstructive surgery post bilateral mastectomy to prepare the skin ahead of the exchange surgery in a few months. Video diary 1 – 30th August – The night before my fill   Video diary 2 – 31st August – 10 minutes after my fill   Love Bec x

Too Much Too Soon

Sometimes we want to bounce back from various facets of life that have temporarily put the brakes on things.  For me, I found myself under the weather (as you will see in the below video diary) just shy of my 6 weeks post surgery.  Life had to resume to some form of normality (well so I thought) and I was jumping out of my skin to get everything in terms of family life and routine back on track, after I’d been down and out from my second diagnosis of breast cancer and my subsequent surgery for a bilateral mastectomy – I was just craving normal. Goes to show, if we ‘jump’ too soon, our body will certainly pull us up.  Here’s my diary about the message my body sent me to ‘woo up’!  You just can’t rush some things – patience is a virtue!   Slow things down if your body is telling you it needs a break!! Love Bec x

Approaching Bilateral Mastectomy…

Hi again – I’m back with another video diary.  Take a look below, I know as a writer, I have mostly just blogged and written in a traditional sense… yet I’m finding a peaceful and therapeutic benefit in doing these video diaries.  Writing takes time and energy and for me, I’m either naturally drawn to it (that’s when I do my best work) or I’m not.  Lately, the thought of typing out my emotions is just not calling me.  Yet to film whatever comes to mind is seeming to prove a beneficial process for me (whether people watch or not). To update my readers if you’re not on Instagram.  I have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer again.  This diagnosis comes just shy of my four year anniversary which was brutal news to hear.  My previous blog post HERE is my first video diary where I begin to share what the experience is like second time around. Bec x   P.S. I’m having a lot of trouble uploading my videos and making them small enough to share …

Breast Cancer… AGAIN!

This video diary was unplanned and somewhat just happened.  In a split second I felt compelled to talk (and I was alone) so I chose to record myself.  I didn’t have a plan of what to say or whether there would be a theme of any sort, I think sometimes you just (well, me as a writer does anyway) have this overwhelming need to get an idea or a passing thought down on paper.  I love journalling and this is exactly that.  It’s not exciting, its just real – it’s me talking candidly about my new diagnosis and how I’m coping with it.  This video diary in the very moment of recording (Friday 29th July 2018 at 6.02pm), made me feel less alone and less inside my own head – it was extremely therapeutic.   Big ideas for blogs, for my book, or just in general come to me all the time, yet sometimes through the formality of writing and structuring, it can become too edited, too perfected.  In this video blog… it’s just me …

That’s A Wrap

Woweeee…. What a month and what an experience to write specifically about my life before, during and after breast cancer. It certainly took me back in time that’s for sure and that in itself wasn’t always easy. Every time I completed an article I would find myself with mixed emotions… Pure joy… in celebrating how far I have come physically and mentally. Fear… because talking about it, refreshed the question of what if I suffer a recurrence? Gratitude… for the fact my words reached and touched so many people, I was incredibly moved by the kind, honest and grateful feedback I received. Anxiety… both from a little pressure on myself to write well and often, but mostly the emotions being felt all over again, leaving you with that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. When I wrote, my memories were felt vividly. Bravery… I respect myself so much more having reflected on what I went through and bravery in the fact that I shared really personal aspects of my life for the world to …